Love Matters

Feb 14, 2019 | 10000 Beds | 0 comments

Love makes the world go ’round…or so they say. In this day and age, love has taken on multiple personalities to fill the needs of every person, every situation, every need, every opportunity. Love has been diluted by overuse and misunderstanding.

Only love matters in the bits and pieces of a person’s life. – William Trevor

And what matters most? It’s that we loved at all. The lyrics to Kenny Rankin’s song, What Matters Most, help us to understand life’s most important moments and emotions.

It’s not how long we held each others hand
What matters is how well we loved each other
It’s not how far we traveled on our way
Of what we found to say
It’s not the spring you see, but all the shades of green
It’s not how long I held you in my arms
What matters is how sweet the years together
It’s not how many summer times we had to give to fall
The early morning smiles we tearfully recall
What matters most is that we loved at all.
It’s not how many summer times we had to give to fall
The early morning smiles we tearfully recall
What matters most is that we loved at all.
What matters most is that we loved at all.
And what does all this have to do with addiction? Well, the reality is….
You can’t love someone out of addiction. – Jean Krisle
We can love them, support them, encourage them, but none of it will help them leave their addiction behind until they are ready to do the work and put in the time to get better.
Balancing love with appropriate responses to a loved one battling addiction is one of the most difficult challenges we have. We want them to know we remember them and love them, but we can’t enable them in any way,
Love does not equate with giving your loved one money.
Love does not equate with telling your loved one they can stay one more night even though you know they are using.
Love does not equate with paying your loved one’s bills.

Love does not equate with enabling their behavior in any way, directly or indirectly.

Love means you will support their good decisions but will not become their financial and physical safe harbor. They lost both of those when they abused them.
Love what’s important.The person. Good effort. Right choices.
It’s difficult, but you can do it and it will help them. Love DOES make the world go ’round, you just have to make certain you are loving to help them live, not to help them continue on the path they are on.
Love matters, that’s all there is to it. The right kind of love.
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An unintentional leader, influencer, and socialpreneur, Jean Krisle intentionally founded and continues to lead 10,000 Beds, a 501c3 nonprofit organization now in its 7th year of operation. Building from a desire to support the many individuals without resources seeking help for a substance use disorder, Jean built 10,000 Beds from a simple idea to a nationwide, life-changing and inspirational force in the addiction & recovery community with more than $10,000,000 in addiction treatment scholarships awarded nationwide.

As an admired speaker, coach, and consultant, Jean speaks from decades of personal experience on the critical strengths of courage, hope, and resilience in business and personal lives. Jean motivates us to face each day with courage, tenacity, hope, and resiliency. She inspires all of us to recognize the strengths we’ve gained through the challenges we’ve faced.

Jean passionately reminds us that we are all in recovery from something and that recovery from anything- loss, failure, disappointment, addictions, etc. – is something we should build on and be proud of! And she teaches us how to do it! For more information about Jean’s availability please contact her via email at jean@10000beds.org.

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